Why We Don’t Do Valentine’s Day


My husband and I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. There. I said it. We don’t plan a fancy, romantic dinner. We don’t buy each other flowers or chocolates. We just don’t do the typical lovey-dovey Valentine’s Day thing. We never have.

When people ask us if we have plans and we shrug and say no, sometimes they’ll ask why. We simply say…it’s just not for us. It’s not because we don’t love each other, we just think it’s a silly ‘holiday’.  A day where you’re forced to show someone how much you love them? We just don’t get it. Honestly, I would rather my husband come home with candy on a random Tuesday in May because he WANTS to. Not because he feels he HAS to. It would have more meaning to me. 

Now, if you’re of the opposite opinion and absolutely LOVE Valentine’s Day – that’s awesome! I’m not knocking it if it’s something you actually enjoy celebrating. But no matter what our thoughts on Valentine’s Day, our two boys still think it’s fun. They get to hand out Valentine’s to their friends at school, and they come home and eat heart shaped candy, chocolates and suckers! It’s a fun day for them, and I would never try to take that away from them. (Although, they have dentist appointments on Valentine’s Day this year. No treats until after their check up!)

But if you’re like us and would rather celebrate this ‘day of love’ as a family instead of romantically, I’ve put together some ideas that we like to do together - or have done in the past - to have a low-key Valentine’s Day at home.


Nachos & Netflix – Back when our kids were still babies, (and before Netflix existed) we would plan nachos and a movie on Valentine’s Day after the kids were in bed. Nachos because I love them, and a movie because my hubby loves movies. Now that everyone has Netflix, it’s even easier! Cook up your favourite family meal, watch a movie together, eat cinnamon hearts and cuddle.

Family Fun Night – Board games, video games, outdoor fun in the snow! Do something you LOVE doing with your LOVED ones. After all, it’s a day about love, right?

Make Valentine’s for Family – When my guys were toddlers, we spent a couple Valentine’s Day afternoons creating homemade cards for family members. We got out all my craft stuff and we made cute little cards with stickers and stamps. Any little crafters in the house will love this idea!

Pizza Picnic – Who doesn’t love pizza night? On Valentine’s Day, I have absolutely no desire to step foot in a busy restaurant. But ordering in pizza? Absolutely! In the past, we’ve put a blanket on the floor and had a pizza picnic with the boys while watching their favourite shows.

Baking with Love – Now, we haven’t done this…yet! But I have some friends who like to bake with their kids and make heart-shaped cookies or cupcakes with red and pink icing and sprinkles! If you have a little baker, this can be a lot of fun!


To my husband and I, Valentine’s Day is just another day. However, I will admit…it’s fun to celebrate with the kids, and it’s a great excuse to eat cinnamon hearts, am I right?

Have a Happy Valentine’s Day – no matter how you choose to spend the day!

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Author: Linsey De Ruysscher

Linsey is a happily married mother of two living in Plainfield, ON. When she’s not busy chasing her two crazy boys, she’s running her own freelance writing company, Little Miss Creative. In her downtime, she enjoys tea, backyard BBQs, watching Friends reruns, and hanging out with her family and friends. Oh, and candy.

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