New Year’s is a lot of pressure. Don’t get me wrong. I have nothing against the holiday it’s just that the expectations that come with it are crazy.
Take New Year’s Eve- I don’t know about you but in the past I’ve ran around like a maniac searching for the perfect dress, (the one that will camouflage the extra Christmas poundage, make me feel sexy, and cost less than $100) googled the best venues in town and paid an exorbitant amount for a ticket that includes a tiny glass of champagne, a cover band that is happy this is the one night of the year they’re guaranteed work, and a plastic horn that makes one of the most annoying sounds known to man. Then I was always disappointed when at the end of the night nothing magical happened, and I almost lost a toe due to frostbite while waiting for a cab in shoes that aren’t meant for dancing or freezing cold weather.
Fortunately my expectations lessened after having children and now when we can get a babysitter on New Year’s and go out I will gladly dance to that cheesy band and smile through the pain of tortured feet for time alone with my husband. It’s a little thing I like to call perspective.
Then there’s New Year’s Day which comes most often with a hangover, a bucket of regret and a pile of argh resolutions. But that’s the ugly…now for the good.
- 1. It’s a fresh start
New Year’s is like clean powdery virgin white snow untouched by salt, pollution, and dog pee.
- 2. Renewed hope-that this year will be the year.
Hope that this is the year we accomplish our goals whether it be weight loss and getting back into those skinny jeans or publishing that novel (Ahem! Please 2015!)
- 3. It’s a kick in the pants
What I mean by that is like it or not the New Year does tend to spur us into action and that is a good thing.
Okay but here’s the other side. The bad.
Beating ourselves up when falling off the proverbial wagon
It’s a new YEAR’s resolution people not a month! That means a whole year to accomplish whatever resolution or goals you set up. So why is by January 15th when we haven’t met whatever almost impossible challenge we have set up for ourselves that we give up, falling into a shame spiral that ends with chocolate cake and a promise for next year? (I am talking about myself here but the “we” makes me feel better.)
And finally: putting it all into perspective
It didn’t take a month to get a closet filled with clothes you can’t wear. Your basement didn’t get crammed to the rafter’s with everyone’s junk (again talking about me) in a month, it took time and it will take time to undo these things. This New Year’s, let’s give ourselves a break. I know I’m going to try- or at least I’m going to add it to my list of resolutions.
Happy 2015 everyone!
How do you feel about New Year’s? What are some of your New Year’s resolution successes and fails? Come on share!
About the Author
Lisa Van Meeteren is the mother of two children, ages 5 and 9. She works as a copywriter and has just completed a novel!