My daughter’s 2nd birthday is just around the corner. Like all parents I am in disbelief of how fast time has flown by! The thought of her birthday has caused me to reflect on my life and analyze how things are going. In particular I find that I have been obsessing about my physical appearance and my lack of motivation to lose the left over baby-weight that has stuck with me after childbirth.
Before my daughter was born I would have considered myself a fairly active person. My previous job was labour intensive so that helped– working in a greenhouse you sweat in both the summer and in the winter when you’re layered up looking after plants! When I became pregnant everyone told me things would change and they did. Like all pregnant women my body spread out to make way for this little person and I gained weight. Now I find myself in what I like to call Mommy Limbo: I’m not thrilled with how I look but I’m not interested in spending my free time at the gym either. In fact, I would rather be doing anything else. These days I find it especially tough at home because my husband who lost his sympathy pregnancy weight the moment our daughter was born is now preparing for a Mud Hero race and getting even more fit.
So I came to the realization that it’s time to start an active living plan, and stop complaining. No more pity parties! Part of the active plan is tricky-instead of trying to figure out how to lose weight fast (like many celebrities) I have to be realistic. I can’t ignore pop culture but I can certainly look at celebs who lose weight in what feels like a matter of minutes and understand that they have a lot of help. Of course Beyoncé can cleanse she has personal trainers and chefs! Sure Gisele can hit the VS runway 6 weeks after having her baby, working out is part of the job! It’s not right that we constantly compare ourselves to glamorous people even though it seems to be unavoidable in our technology driven world. So I decided to focus on the goals that are attainable. I mean I love Reese Witherspoon as much as the next person but instead of focussing on how to lose weight fast like she did, I could just copy her haircut.
I want our daughter to grow up in a home that places value on people for their merits and that starts with her dad and I reinforcing good habits. I want her to know that it’s important to respect people and that we need to discuss what we see in the media about size, celebs and the obsession with what is deemed “attractive”. I don’t want my daughter to think that all I do is spend hours googling, “how to lose belly fat”, or “how to lose weight fast” or fidgeting in front of the mirror worrying about what other people think of my size.
I am hoping is that this starts a new conversation-not just amongst moms but with everyone who is struggling with body issues. No more of this fat shaming. No more unrealistic diet plans. I am going to stop crying in front of the closet full of clothes that don’t fit anymore and set realistic goals that include building self esteem and being comfortable with whatever number is on the tag of my pants. That crying girl in front of the closet – that’s the old me. I became a new person the moment Sadie came into this world and I want to live up to her expectations. Let’s see how it goes, it’s another year to feel healthier and to celebrate every milestone, no matter how big or small.
As I start to change the way I look at the world I wonder if other new parents are going through the same things, it doesn’t matter what you do as long as the end of the day you feel good. So I’m curious, what have you done lately that inspired a more active lifestyle or helped with losing weight after pregnancy? I would love to hear your tips and suggestions!
About the Author
Ainsley Gelder was welcomed into the Mabel community back in 2012 - ready for a new job and pregnant the Team welcomed her (and her bump) with loving arms and now they can’t get rid of her! You may recognize her voice from communicating with her through the Customer Service Department, she’s here to answer questions or to chat about labels and loves to laugh. Ainsley is crazy for a good DIY Project on Pinterest and spending time with her family, she especially loves spending time reading books with her toddler and having dance parties in the living room.
You can find her on Twitter @ainsleyisdancin