We were hanging out at our neighbour's for a playdate this week and after maybe a dozen temper tantrums and "He took my...'s" I turned to my friend and said (loudly, over the deafening noise) "Well, this week's blog post is going to be a quick one: Don't listen to me, because I clearly have no idea what I'm doing!"
I'm kidding, sort of. But I think it raises a good point. There is no quick-fix for behaviour challenges, and there is certainly no 'one size fits all' approach to parenting. What works for my children may not work for everyone else's, and what worked for my two year old doesn't seem to be doing the trick as we blow out three candles this week.
I'm constantly on the hunt for new tips and tricks for managing different behaviour challenges, and trying to find the balance between trying a new approach and being consistent. But I'm a stickler for a few things:
1) Manners. No matter how horrendous your behaviour was on our playdate, you will say "Thank you for having me."
2) No speaking badly about others. Yes, he knocked down your tower, and no you don't have to like it, but there will be no "So-and-so is not my friend anymore, I don't like him." (This doesn't apply to Mom and Dad though; I'm not naive enough to think I'll get through all my parenting years without an "I don't like you!")
3) Nobody goes to bed angry. No matter what kind of day we've had, it will end with a story and a cuddle--for as long as they'll let me, anyway!
What are the hard and non-negotiable rules in your house?