Last week, one of my mommy group friends celebrated her birthday. Her Facebook page overflowed with greetings from her family and friends. When I scrolled through her page and all the lovely comments, something stopped me in my tracks…She was celebrating her 33rd birthday.
Everyone wished her a happy 33rd birthday.
Something about seeing that number gave me pause, because in just a few short months, I am going to be celebrating my 43rd birthday. I am officially the oldest mommy on the block - with a five year-old son and a one year-old daughter. I have never compared myself to my younger mom friends before, I just assumed we were all around the same age, give or take a few years. We all have the same challenges with potty training, temper tantrums and middle of the night wake-ups. Some of us work outside the home and others stay at home. We are just normal moms who love our children and love being moms…except I am the oldest mom on the block. That’s the difference. I am not 33. I am almost 43.
When I saw those birthday greetings, I wished for just half a second that I was turning 33. But then I remembered something…my children don’t have a concept of age or time. Right now, I am their world and it doesn’t matter what age I am as long as I love them and show them that they are the most important people in my life.
I don’t regret the path I took in life. I worked hard advancing my career. I travelled the world; I built houses in Guatemala and hiked up an active volcano. I did everything life had to offer and loved every minute.
Then I met my husband. We dated and married within a year - we had our son right away and our daughter came a few years later. I was 38 when my son was born and 42 with my beautiful daughter. When I was becoming a mom at 42, two people that I know were becoming grandparents for the first time. People would tell me that age doesn’t matter. And you know what? It doesn’t. Love is what matters. It is so easy to get caught up with age and comparing yourself to others. I am the best version of myself with my husband and my children beside me. We run in the park, we swim in the ocean and we make the best snow angels in the neighborhood. This doll is one fun mama who loves life and everything in it. I am so thankful that I am a mother and that I can show my children that age doesn’t matter. It is what’s in your heart that makes a difference. So, I don’t mind being the oldest mom on the block – I have a heart that loves everyone and everything in my path.
Whether you are mom who is 23, 33 or 43, embrace life and everything it has to offer. Show your children that love is what matters, not the number on your cake.
Shauna MacNeil is a 40 something mom of two young children (4 and 9 months) and is based in Dartmouth, Nova Scotia. Shauna and her family love going on weekend adventures, playing outside and getting together with family and friends. Shauna is currently on maternity leave, but will return to her full time career in community outreach in August 2016.
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