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10 Signs You’ve Entered into Your Mom Years.

We all know that when you become a Mom, you’re transformed. Physically, emotionally, literally, figuratively… It’s all happening. But for some reason, we wake up one day and think, “Wait a minute… I have three children?? I’m a Mom?? I was in my 20s yesterday. When did this happen??”

Yes. When you weren’t looking, you suddenly changed. You are wiser. You are more mature. You no longer have a shot at Leonardo DiCaprio. You have fully entered into your Mom years.

Here are a few signs it has happened to you:

1. You not only understand, but nod approvingly and chuckle at the 8 million memes on the interweb about coffee and wine.

2. Your purse has become storage for your children’s toys and accessories. (Which actually comes in handy when you’re driving and forgot your sunglasses at home. Hello Kitty sunnies will do in a pinch!)

3. You have this unnerving talent of working your birth story into any conversation you have with a fellow Mom.

4. You flat out refuse to get rid of that one, giant pair of “laundry day” undies. In fact, they are now reaching “regular rotation” status. You know… the kind that should NEVER see the light outside the underwear drawer. Of course, you tell yourself that it’s all okay because they’re soft pink in colour. So that negates the largeness of them and makes them pretty. Honest.

5. You have eaten a cupcake alone in the bathroom.

6. You realize one day that many of your coworkers are 12-15 years younger than you. Suddenly, you are no longer the young pup in the office.

7. You investigate your face close up and in natural light at least once a week to make sure there are no rogue hairs.

8. Sleep deprivation has just become a way of life. And you’re really okay with that.

9. You have discussed your breasts with people on more than one occasion and at least once while at work (much to your younger coworkers’ horror).

10. You’ve looked at your partner and thought “How on earth are you still raising your eyebrows suggestively at me at the end of the day??” First of all – how are you not tired? And even if you can get past that… the rogue hairs, the laundry day undies? Really? I still turn you on?? Bless you.

 

About the Author:

Heather Dixon is a copywriter at Mabel’s Labels, a smoothie aficionado, a runner and a Mom to three highly advanced little girls (according to her husband and her).

What to do when your toddler wakes at 5am.

It can be hard to get a child to sleep through the night – but what if they are habitually waking early?

One mother emailed me about her 3-year old son who refused to do anything alone when he woke up early. If she didn’t let him in her bed, he would cry until he woke his 10 month old sister up. Now there are TWO wailing children to contend with at 5:30 am.  Ugh!

Is this how you start your day? Are you sleep deprived from this toddler sleep schedule regime?

Here was my reply:

Thanks for the email. He is an early riser and you are not. He can rise early (try to make him stop –  HA!)  and that is okay – but he must be a co-operative human in  your house  and realize he doesn’t have the right to disturb others when he wakes.

So…. tonight at tuck-ins, let him know YOU are not to be woken until 7 am (or whenever) and set an alarm for him so he knows when it will be 7am. Then ask him what he would like to do alone when he wakes until 7 o’clock arrives.   As long as he is safe and non-disturbing, it shouldn’t matter to you…

When he says things like “the TV is too bright” or “the hall is too dark”  he is just attempting to eliminate the options you have offered in order to get to be social with you! TOUGH! You are NOT an option at 5:30 am and he must be left to deal with the true fact that life at 5:30 am is BORING and hopefully he will either LEARN to self-entertain, not  be afraid of  the dark, give up minding the TV brightness or go back to sleep.

To ensure he doesn’t disturb you, you can put a childproof handle on the outside of YOUR bedroom door.   It’s okay if he screams and bang for the first few mornings (say NOTHING) so he learns that there is NO mommy interaction until 7am.

If the baby cries – leave her too. Now he has a crying sister and no mom!  Boy – better not be stuck like that again!!!  The baby will settle again (good training for her too) or he’ll go play with her and the two of them can keep each other company.  They’d learn it’s no fun, lots of tears, boring and maybe a bit scary to be up and alone without mom.  Let him / them experience this a few times (the baby will learn to sleep through the noise of her brother) and they both will learn there is no good reason to get up before 7am.

Good luck!

Alyson

 

About the Author:

Alyson Schafer

Alyson Schafer is a psychotherapist and one of Canada’s most notable parenting experts. She is the resident expert on The Marilyn Denis Show, CTV News Channel and CBC’s The World This Weekend. Alyson is an “Ask an Expert” Columnist for Today’s Parent Magazine, and sits on the Health Advisory Board for Chatelaine Magazine.  Alyson is the best selling author of “Breaking The Good Mom Myth” and “Honey, I Wrecked The Kids” and her latest, “Ain’t Misbehavin”.  She is an international speaker including the inaugural TEDxKids in Brussels and offers free parenting tips at www.alysonschafer.com

Sleepaway camp: The best way to decide if your kids are ready.

Photo taken by jvlphoto.com

I’m no stranger to sending kids to sleep away camp. My “biggie” kids have been going for several years  and the benefits are countless.

This year, I have a new crop of kids who are great ages for sleep away camp, so for the first time in a few years, I found myself revisiting the age old question of “ARE THEY READY?” Of course, I’m not sure I’m ready, but as a wise Camp Director once told me, “Sorry Julie, this isn’t about YOU!”  Fine thing.

After setting my personal anxieties aside, I looked at my two little darlings and asked myself the following:

Do they want to go to camp?  If they want to go, it’s a pretty good indication that they’re ready. Of course, kids can be indecisive – one minute they want to go and another minute they don’t. When they say they don’t want to go, it’s likely that they’re worried about homesickness. So, I remind my kids that it’s completely normal and they likely will be homesick at some point. But it usually passes and doesn’t interfere with the overall camp experience. Besides, camp staff are trained to deal with this issue. A homesick kid is the biggest and most common issue they deal with.

As the parent, our job is to consider how severe the homesickness will be. So when trying to determine whether they’re ready or not, you can ask yourself these questions:

  • When at home, does your kid stay in their own bed every night? If you wake up every morning having discovered a little visitor migrated into your bed during the night, the kiddo might not quite be ready
  • Does your child feel comfortable having a sleepover with extended family or close friends? If they’d rather be glued to you than have a fun sleepover at Grandma’s house, this could be a sign that the kiddo is not ready for camp
  • Can you get a little friend to go too?  My kids like going to camp with siblings, but kids are put in cabins according to age so siblings don’t usually get to stay together. A familiar friend from home or school can sometimes help a kiddo feel more comfortable.
  • Have your kiddos had the chance to see camp for themselves?  My two kids that are up for camp consideration this summer have been able to visit their siblings at camp, which has familiarized them with the camp setting. This can be helpful.

 

After putting kids #4 and #5 through this little test, these were the results:

Photo taken by jvlphoto.com

YES, this kid is ready camp! She’s signed up and ready to go!

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Sorry buddy, maybe next year!

How do you decide if your little ones are ready for this experience? Do you have anyone heading off to sleep-away camp this season?

 

About the Author:

Julie Cole Mabel's Labels

Julie Cole

Julie Cole is co-founder of Mabel’s Labels Inc., the leading provider of kids’ labels, and a proud mom of six.

 

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