Making the Cut: Children Dealing with Disappointment

Making the Cut: Children Dealing with Disappointment

With such a big family, I’ve always told my kids that they can’t be on travelling sports teams. When my children have asked to try out for such teams, my response has consistently been, “There are enough kids in your own city that are good enough to play with you.”

But, I have this one kid who loves hockey and wants to play all the time. She noticed that her friends who play on “rep” teams get to be on the ice a lot more than she and her house league pals. Her perfect day would include no less than three games of hockey.

She began her campaign to get me to change my mind, and presented a plan that detailed how we could manage her hockey schedule if she was on a rep team. My wise kid had already recruited her aunt, who committed to be the “hockey parent”. My little hockey player even told us how she planned to contribute financially to offset the extra costs. She won. I allowed her to try out. Basically, she’s a really good kid who can be crafty at getting her way.

But when she got cut from the team I realized just how awesome she really is.

I had gone to one of the try-outs and it was pretty clear to me that everyone there was bigger, faster and stronger. She’s only been playing proper hockey for two years. She was on the ice with girls who were older and had several years of rep hockey under their belts.

The coach had told the girls he was looking for hard working hockey players. Since no one works harder out there than my kid, she figured it would earn her a spot on the team.

When the e-mail came saying she was cut from the team, she told me she’d just have to practice more for next year. I didn’t see tears, I didn’t hear, “it’s not fair,” and I certainly didn’t hear her say, “but I’m better than so-and-so.” She just wants to practice more.

So, I’m proud of my daughter for getting cut from the hockey team. Her actions tell me that no matter what happens, on or off the ice, that she is confident and resilient. Nothing she can do in a hockey game can make me more proud of how she responded to that disappointing news.

How has your child responded to disappointment? Have you had to deal with a similar situation in your house?

Fundraiser Spotlight: Autism Service Dogs

Over the years we’ve had a variety of organizations host a fundraiser with us to assist in generating funds for their cause. Like people, every fundraiser is different and we felt it was time to shine the spotlight on some of the people and organizations running a Mabel’s Labels Fundraiser.

In October 2013, Cayleb received his National Service Dog, Ivy

Kaley is a busy mom of three and has been a Mabel’s Labels customer since 2007. She purchased her first set of labels for her son, Bryceson, when he started preschool and discovered that she could host a fundraiser selling the products. She tucked this tid-bit of information, away. It wasn’t until April 2012 that she recalled the fundraising program and registered, Paws, for Cayleb, to assist with her goal of raising funds by earning 20% commission. Her son Cayleb was approved for the waiting list to receive a service dog for autism from National Service Dogs. The average cost to train and maintain a service dog over an 8-10 year working life is valued at $30,000.

Knowing many family and friends that wanted to support her efforts for the service dog, she suggested that they do it through purchasing personalized labels from Mabel’s Labels. She loves that the fundraising program is easy and that the product is shipped directly to the people that ordered!  In conjunction to hosting an online fundraiser with Mabel’s Labels, Kaley and her family have raised over $24,000 with help from other fundraising initiatives like a Bowl-a-thon, 50/50 tickets, silent auction, bake sale, Raffle, Chocolate bar sales, and donations.

Sharing her customized fundraising link through email, Facebook and on www.pawsforcayleb.blogspot.ca  has not only helped spread the word about Mabel’s Labels to assist in supporting her cause, but has also raised awareness of autism and of National Service Dogs within her community. We applaud you Kaley!

As someone who manages many fundraisers, the best advice Kaley can give is to get started immediately. Then be sure to promote your fundraiser at key times. She likes to roll out her Mabel’s Labels campaign before summer camp and back-to-school.

We wish Kaley, Cayleb and Ivy continued success and happiness. Thank-you for choosing to fundraise with Mabel’s Labels!

If you’d like to support Paws for Cayleb, purchase your next order of Mabel’s Labels via www.pawsforcayleb.mabelslabels.com

If you want to sign up your Preschool to earn extra funds, visit: http://www.mabelslabels.com/form/?form_id=fundraising-ideas&form_size=1050

Find out more about National Service Dogs, and to read Co-Founder Julie Cole’s stories regarding autism see her tab right here on the blog.

The gift that keeps on giving

This guest blog post comes from Kim Graydon of Glen Bernard Camp.

As a parent, wouldn’t you just love to find that ONE gift for your child they would continue to love their whole life through?  Ready?  It IS out there….it is the gift of summer camp.   But what exactly are the benefits of summer camp for kids? What are you giving your son or daughter by investing in the gift of camp?  You are buying them fun, adventure, outdoor skills, an extended slumber party, freedom and acceptance to dress up in crazy wigs and clothes, a break from their technology and more!   As someone who went to camp from the age of 7 through to 20, here is what I know my mother bought me (and now what I am giving my children).

I was given life skills.  She gifted me the exposure to finding out I was resilient. When the going gets tough, the tough get going.  I’m one of those people. I can thank her for giving me the skills and knowledge to find my way out of a forest using a compass.  This is still a relevant skill despite what our children say!!  I am proud to have been given the network of women I am a part of today.  I can call on any of my “summer sisters” for advice, support or potential job prospects.  It is like a club but you don’t have to pretend to be something you aren’t. PHEW!  Kudos to her for teaching me that my behaviour CAN impact the life of a child.  I learned at the age of 16 that I was a role model and part of a team.

Your gift of camp will teach your child that she/he matters to people in addition to their family.  They will learn to belong to a group that feels like family.  Your investment will equip them with skills that will not only help them, but that will be used to give back to others as they go through life.  You will ensure that your child begins to learn conflict resolution in a safe, supportive environment.  Your gift will bring a lifetime of happiness and fond memories.  Isn’t that amazing?  Imagine if you gave your child a toy that brought them happiness for decades?  There would be a crazy rush during the holidays to get our hands on that one, elusive gift.

There are so many different types of camps to choose from.  Start investigating!  Talk to other Moms, go online, get referrals or book a tour of a camp you are interested in.  Some camps will even come to your house and visit with you and your potential camper!  Camp is a lifelong learning adventure.  Take the plunge!

 

About the Author:

Kim Graydon is the Associate Director of Development at Glen Bernard Camp in Hunstville, Ontario.

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