A recent organizing job has had me working on a 13 year old girl’s room. Which has had me thinking about those organizing transitions from toddler-hood to teen and all that happens in between. Girls have more obvious changes, from baby dolls to Barbies, then posters of their latest heartthrob. In some cases it gets all meshed in one room with no clear sense of who this emerging teenager is.
In this case that is where I came in. Mom wanted to give her daughter an organized room but wanted a third party opinion. The daughter was right at that age where she held some things dear to her but it was obvious that some things were making their ways into nooks, corners and crannies to get hidden, so to speak. She wanted to have certain things out but not where everyone could see it.
As I talked to her about some of the memorabilia she slowly took things off the shelves and said she would be fine with storing them for safe keeping. When I came back with an example of what her new room and furniture would look like, all of the child-like stuff quickly disappeared. She was ecstatic about a new “teen” room and it made it easier to let some of the little stuff go.
It was hard for her at first and she did store a lot which brings me to this conclusion. It is so important to have our kids part of the organizing process through each of these stages so they start learning to let go a little. You don’t have to clear out the memories completely but make it a regular thing so it is not so emotional when they get older. After all when she goes off to college, guess where those boxes are staying?